Earlier today, being tired and a shade too grumpy, I pondered over being judgmental, as I tend to get when I'm in such a state. I know, in theory, it's wrong, but then I thought about how I do it all of the time; I prefer good people over bad, that's just how I roll. But then I got to thinking about the intrinsic value of the individual, and how much character plays in how much I like them as a person. I suppose this is natural because this helps us decide whom to embrace and whom to steer clear of. But what about God: since God loves us all equally, shouldn't we strive to do the same?
Well, of course. Sure, God loves us each the same, but our behavior...needless to say, that's how God judges us in the end. So how can it be wrong to judge others when that's what God does? Frankly, it's not. That's how we deem who should be in our lives and who shouldn't be. But being human, we must be careful how we use our judgments of others. At worst, our judgments must yield a neutral result, and at best, it should yield constructive help for the ones around you with the character flaws. Loving all people, even the worst of the worst vile and evil murderers, is based on their God-given value, not on their character. And while you may despise what the murder does, one must accept that even murderers, while they are still alive, have the potential to be saints. And that potential is what is to be loved, obviously not their present behaviors.
So then, that got me to thinking (how, I'm not terribly sure): if I saw a burning car wreck with a saintly old woman and a murderous young thug trapped inside (how the two got in a car together is peculiar to begin with, I know, but I digress), and I could save only one of them, which would it be?
Originally, I was thinking that I would save the old lady, as she's a good person (and remember, I like good people), but then I thought, what is really important? The old lady has no worries (as far as I can tell) with being with God after she dies, but the thug...well, the thug only has the potential. But it's that Godly potential that is to be loved and valued. Ultimately, the most important thing in this life is where we end up in the next. With the old woman obviously squared away with God, I would have to save the thug, as hard as that would be to do. The thug needs the salvation, the old lady already has it.
Who would you save, and why? Post a comment here:
Monday, November 30, 2009
Sunday, November 29, 2009
On Racism
My sister and her hubby, my bff, turned me onto Flight of the Conchords (from HBO), and loaned me the first season on DVD. If you haven't seen the show, you really should try to. It provides great joy through being absurd, clever, and absolutely hilarious.
Earlier today, I watched the episode in which the Indian guy who runs a fruit stand gets extremely "racist" against Jermaine and Bret (the two white guys who make up the novelty band, Flight of the Conchords) because he thinks they are from Australia. Apparently, the fruit vendor has great hatred towards Australians; so much so that he adamantly refuses to sell them any fruit at all, and even has the apple that Bret touches destroyed. All turns out fine, however, when the Indian guy finds out that they're actually from New Zealand and not from horrible Australia. After that, they become friends.
This is a fantastic example of how stupid racism is. Racism is not based on judging an individual based on merit or character, but rather on negative stereotypes or assumptions of a group. Racism is a pitiful character flaw, often based in ignorance. And while it is perfectly natural for people to fear what they do not know, as healthy fear helps keep us safe, fear of unfamiliar races and cultures is not rational, since it is based on unenlightened, and oft unexamined, negative emotional responses. But then again, how can ignorance be anything but irrational?
But ignorance isn't always the problem. Sometimes, highly-educated and worldly people are extremely bigoted, because the other source of racism is low self-esteem. People who feel bad or insecure about themselves (and usually lack morality or common decency), tend to want to insult or diminish the value of others so that their own stock rises. Obviously and objectively, that doesn't work, and only makes the racist appear sad, desperate, and truly pathetic (to which the racist is almost always oblivious).
The differences in race and culture of the people of the world are not at all scary, but are beautiful, interesting and intentionally created by God. And no, it is not racist to point out that certain people are a different color than you (or even joke about it). That's not racism, that's descriptive dialogue. Racism only enters into the equation when anything negative (in thought, word, or deed) is attached to the difference.
I know that, eventually, in our growing global community, racism will atrophy until it will only be found in history books. But we can only get there if we all strive to be enlightened and accepting of all others. Play your part in getting us to this better future. Stay rational and embrace the differences amongst God's children. And remember: God loves us all the same and won't judge us on the color of our skin, but on the content of our character. Emulate God always.
Earlier today, I watched the episode in which the Indian guy who runs a fruit stand gets extremely "racist" against Jermaine and Bret (the two white guys who make up the novelty band, Flight of the Conchords) because he thinks they are from Australia. Apparently, the fruit vendor has great hatred towards Australians; so much so that he adamantly refuses to sell them any fruit at all, and even has the apple that Bret touches destroyed. All turns out fine, however, when the Indian guy finds out that they're actually from New Zealand and not from horrible Australia. After that, they become friends.
This is a fantastic example of how stupid racism is. Racism is not based on judging an individual based on merit or character, but rather on negative stereotypes or assumptions of a group. Racism is a pitiful character flaw, often based in ignorance. And while it is perfectly natural for people to fear what they do not know, as healthy fear helps keep us safe, fear of unfamiliar races and cultures is not rational, since it is based on unenlightened, and oft unexamined, negative emotional responses. But then again, how can ignorance be anything but irrational?
But ignorance isn't always the problem. Sometimes, highly-educated and worldly people are extremely bigoted, because the other source of racism is low self-esteem. People who feel bad or insecure about themselves (and usually lack morality or common decency), tend to want to insult or diminish the value of others so that their own stock rises. Obviously and objectively, that doesn't work, and only makes the racist appear sad, desperate, and truly pathetic (to which the racist is almost always oblivious).
The differences in race and culture of the people of the world are not at all scary, but are beautiful, interesting and intentionally created by God. And no, it is not racist to point out that certain people are a different color than you (or even joke about it). That's not racism, that's descriptive dialogue. Racism only enters into the equation when anything negative (in thought, word, or deed) is attached to the difference.
I know that, eventually, in our growing global community, racism will atrophy until it will only be found in history books. But we can only get there if we all strive to be enlightened and accepting of all others. Play your part in getting us to this better future. Stay rational and embrace the differences amongst God's children. And remember: God loves us all the same and won't judge us on the color of our skin, but on the content of our character. Emulate God always.
Saturday, November 28, 2009
Everything Happens for a Reason, Revisited
When things tend to be random, seemingly meaningless, or are going down-right terribly, I have a bad habit to get self-involved and have doubts that God has a plan. I know it's based on my selfish opinion of how I want things to go, but nevertheless, I get wrapped up in my self too much to step out and accept that even the mundane has a purpose. But it does. Everything actually happens for a reason, and today was a great affirmation of that fact.
I took my brother to the emergency room to get a doctor's note so that he could return to work, after having broken his clavicle seven weeks ago. While there, the doctor found my brother's blood pressure to be critically high. So high, in fact, that my brother's life could be at risk if he left it untreated. Well, what a convenient bit of luck, then, that it happened to be discovered. The overall odds of my brother having gone to get his blood pressure checked and treated was next to none, as he lacks insurance, and would never have gone to see the doctor had he not been injured.
But praise God for the wonderful blessing of my brother's broken clavicle (which is already healed). He is now on medication to get his blood pressure in line and is earnestly going to try to stop the habits that caused it. When a turn of events happens in such a way that a bad accident turns into a blessing...well, I can only thank God and be reminded from this that everything truly does happen for a reason. God is marvelous!
I took my brother to the emergency room to get a doctor's note so that he could return to work, after having broken his clavicle seven weeks ago. While there, the doctor found my brother's blood pressure to be critically high. So high, in fact, that my brother's life could be at risk if he left it untreated. Well, what a convenient bit of luck, then, that it happened to be discovered. The overall odds of my brother having gone to get his blood pressure checked and treated was next to none, as he lacks insurance, and would never have gone to see the doctor had he not been injured.
But praise God for the wonderful blessing of my brother's broken clavicle (which is already healed). He is now on medication to get his blood pressure in line and is earnestly going to try to stop the habits that caused it. When a turn of events happens in such a way that a bad accident turns into a blessing...well, I can only thank God and be reminded from this that everything truly does happen for a reason. God is marvelous!
Friday, November 27, 2009
Don't Get Mad at Yourself, Get Even
In reflecting on why I spend so much time beating myself up over poor decisions in the past, I came to accept, with God's help, it's because I'm a good person. I strive to do good and right things and when I screw up, I feel bad. Sometimes, I feel downright wretched.
But God reminds me, as often as I allow myself to listen, that the past is unchangeable, so I have to just accept the facts and move forward. I know first hand how incredibly difficult this is. And while I know that all humans make mistakes, which is our nature, I still want to strive to be the best person I can be, to try to be as perfect as possible.
And therein lies the rub: it is impossible to be perfect while we are on Earth with our free will. Free will, by its nature, includes the entire spectrum of deed, word, and thought. And sometimes bad or negative things result. Sometimes out of ignorance, but usually out of selfishness.
So what does one do with past decisions that one laments? Learn the lesson that needs learning, let go of the emotional pain (made possible through acceptance and prayer), and then really push forward with making the future better. And with focus and keeping God in mind as often as possible, you will get to a better place.
But God reminds me, as often as I allow myself to listen, that the past is unchangeable, so I have to just accept the facts and move forward. I know first hand how incredibly difficult this is. And while I know that all humans make mistakes, which is our nature, I still want to strive to be the best person I can be, to try to be as perfect as possible.
And therein lies the rub: it is impossible to be perfect while we are on Earth with our free will. Free will, by its nature, includes the entire spectrum of deed, word, and thought. And sometimes bad or negative things result. Sometimes out of ignorance, but usually out of selfishness.
So what does one do with past decisions that one laments? Learn the lesson that needs learning, let go of the emotional pain (made possible through acceptance and prayer), and then really push forward with making the future better. And with focus and keeping God in mind as often as possible, you will get to a better place.
Thursday, November 26, 2009
Reflect and Give Thanks
Thanksgiving is my sentimental favorite holiday. Christmas has all the glitz and glam, but Thanksgiving is so rustic, so simple, it brings me great joy. But the primary reason I love it so is because of my family. Spending time with my dear and wonderful family is the best thing in my life, and then add a FANTASTIC meal to boot...well, that's just a winning combination for a perfect day. Truly.
So here's a list of my most sacred and appreciated blessings (yes, I do love my lists):
1.) Life (necessary for all other blessings)
2.) Family (I truly cannot stress enough how lovely and fun they make my life. My life is perfect because of them.)
3.) Friends (they can be like family, just less blood related)
4.) All good people (they are the salvation of this planet)
5.) Nature (For real, have you see it? I mean, God's beauty and creativity are off the hook!)
6.) God's mercy, patience, and limitless love (without these, I would be in big trouble)
7.) My house (to me, it is perfect, as flawed as it is)
8.) My car (as banged up as it is, I am greatly blessed, as many go without)
9.) My job (I've been HUGELY blessed as far as my job security and lack of job stress)
Appreciation requires focus, and Thanksgiving is the one day in particular during which proper focus is paid towards one's blessings. And I have an embarrassment of riches as far as blessings are concerned. I hope you have as well. God be with you on this important and precious holiday. Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!
So here's a list of my most sacred and appreciated blessings (yes, I do love my lists):
1.) Life (necessary for all other blessings)
2.) Family (I truly cannot stress enough how lovely and fun they make my life. My life is perfect because of them.)
3.) Friends (they can be like family, just less blood related)
4.) All good people (they are the salvation of this planet)
5.) Nature (For real, have you see it? I mean, God's beauty and creativity are off the hook!)
6.) God's mercy, patience, and limitless love (without these, I would be in big trouble)
7.) My house (to me, it is perfect, as flawed as it is)
8.) My car (as banged up as it is, I am greatly blessed, as many go without)
9.) My job (I've been HUGELY blessed as far as my job security and lack of job stress)
Appreciation requires focus, and Thanksgiving is the one day in particular during which proper focus is paid towards one's blessings. And I have an embarrassment of riches as far as blessings are concerned. I hope you have as well. God be with you on this important and precious holiday. Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Wake up call
There are things that happen in one's life that force immediate change of ways, and my recent health scare was that for me.
As altruistic and positive as I make myself out to be, I am still just a human, with the ability to make bad choices, do dumb things, ride an emotional roller coaster, and be selfish. And lazy, don't forget lazy.
Which brings me to my wake up call: I have abruptly realized that it actually is important to pay attention to one's body (your most intimate gift from God) and take the best care of it as possible. Needless to say for anyone who knows me, I have room for improvement in this area. I plan to stick around for at least 100 more years, so I have to be sure to take care of the vessel that will let that happen.
Living is a wonderful blessing, so I want to be sure we are all around for a long time, especially you. By the way, I'm not kidding. If you read this, that means you vow to take care of your body with proper nutrition, stretching and exercise, regular check-ups, and rest. Ha ha, now you have to, no take backs. You'll be glad you did, anyways. Take good care of yourself.
As altruistic and positive as I make myself out to be, I am still just a human, with the ability to make bad choices, do dumb things, ride an emotional roller coaster, and be selfish. And lazy, don't forget lazy.
Which brings me to my wake up call: I have abruptly realized that it actually is important to pay attention to one's body (your most intimate gift from God) and take the best care of it as possible. Needless to say for anyone who knows me, I have room for improvement in this area. I plan to stick around for at least 100 more years, so I have to be sure to take care of the vessel that will let that happen.
Living is a wonderful blessing, so I want to be sure we are all around for a long time, especially you. By the way, I'm not kidding. If you read this, that means you vow to take care of your body with proper nutrition, stretching and exercise, regular check-ups, and rest. Ha ha, now you have to, no take backs. You'll be glad you did, anyways. Take good care of yourself.
Monday, November 23, 2009
Facing Death Successfully
Death is one scary s.o.b., no doubt. The idea of it is so final and so unbearably sad. Yet we all have to face our own mortality sooner or later. (I pray for us all much later.)
Having faith in God is a wonderful comfort, but doubt is a natural human response to anything and everything. So when one faces that what comes after this life is truly unknown, with or without God, the fear of this mystery can grow exponentially.
Through a recent cancer scare, I came face-to-face with the abyss. Not literally, but in my mind. I came to realize that infinity is an overwhelming idea and that dwelling on things over which you have no control is quite literally madness. And then God reminded me return to center, grab back my focus, and live the heck out of the rest of the time I have, no matter how many decades it is.
So here's my Inspirational Guide to Facing Impending Death, Yet Appearing Cool as a Cucumber:
1. Don't think twice about the inevitability of death. Seriously, what's the point?
2. Clear your conscience, make amends for wrongdoings, say everything good you can to your loved ones, and live righteously with God guiding you through your conscience as you take your final bows. It's all about approaching the finish line properly.
3. Do your own prep: I know it's not fun to think about, but write down and share with your loved ones your final wishes and such. Yes, have a will.
4. Give your junk away: pass treasures along to those you wish while you can actually share with them the sentiment. (Come to think of it, you don't even have to be dying to do this one.)
5. Organize your legacy of pictures, journals, books, keepsakes, etc. Share with those to whom you pass these most precious heirlooms their importance and catalog what you can. (Ditto.)
6. As you get closer to the checkered flag, stay focused on how much God loves you, God's truly limitless mercy, and focus on the wonderful people who have passed before you. They're already there, where ever there is, so maybe they're keeping an eye out for your welcome. Ya never know.
7. Thank God for everything, as every second on this Earth is a beautiful blessing. Short stay or long, everybody leaves this life with some memory that is worth cherishing. Perpetually remember all of the love you shared during your life and all of the loved ones with whom that love was shared. Focus on all of the great and wondrous creations in nature, and thank God for how perfect it all is.
8. And, if you can, try to go in your sleep. I hear it's better.
Having faith in God is a wonderful comfort, but doubt is a natural human response to anything and everything. So when one faces that what comes after this life is truly unknown, with or without God, the fear of this mystery can grow exponentially.
Through a recent cancer scare, I came face-to-face with the abyss. Not literally, but in my mind. I came to realize that infinity is an overwhelming idea and that dwelling on things over which you have no control is quite literally madness. And then God reminded me return to center, grab back my focus, and live the heck out of the rest of the time I have, no matter how many decades it is.
So here's my Inspirational Guide to Facing Impending Death, Yet Appearing Cool as a Cucumber:
1. Don't think twice about the inevitability of death. Seriously, what's the point?
2. Clear your conscience, make amends for wrongdoings, say everything good you can to your loved ones, and live righteously with God guiding you through your conscience as you take your final bows. It's all about approaching the finish line properly.
3. Do your own prep: I know it's not fun to think about, but write down and share with your loved ones your final wishes and such. Yes, have a will.
4. Give your junk away: pass treasures along to those you wish while you can actually share with them the sentiment. (Come to think of it, you don't even have to be dying to do this one.)
5. Organize your legacy of pictures, journals, books, keepsakes, etc. Share with those to whom you pass these most precious heirlooms their importance and catalog what you can. (Ditto.)
6. As you get closer to the checkered flag, stay focused on how much God loves you, God's truly limitless mercy, and focus on the wonderful people who have passed before you. They're already there, where ever there is, so maybe they're keeping an eye out for your welcome. Ya never know.
7. Thank God for everything, as every second on this Earth is a beautiful blessing. Short stay or long, everybody leaves this life with some memory that is worth cherishing. Perpetually remember all of the love you shared during your life and all of the loved ones with whom that love was shared. Focus on all of the great and wondrous creations in nature, and thank God for how perfect it all is.
8. And, if you can, try to go in your sleep. I hear it's better.
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Embrace the Blessing of Family
God designed our human society intentionally with families being at the center of it all. God knew getting through life, even simply surviving it, was an incredibly impossible feat for an individual human. God built into our society a support network already in place: the family.
Beyond life itself, family is our most sacred blessing. It is the center of strength, support, love, unyielding generosity, shared memories, kinship, and even friendship. My best friends are my family and it fills me with so much love and joy to say so. They are all truly incredible people. Each one. My life has found its fullness of love and happiness with my family. If I died today, I die knowing I have been fully blessed with the best possible family. And totally loved.
Okay, enough sap-fest...My words for the day: cherish your family as fully as you can, and where family is lacking, build deep relationships with those you love and trust. Life truly is a rocky challenge, but with support from loved ones, we can all get through it beautifully.
Beyond life itself, family is our most sacred blessing. It is the center of strength, support, love, unyielding generosity, shared memories, kinship, and even friendship. My best friends are my family and it fills me with so much love and joy to say so. They are all truly incredible people. Each one. My life has found its fullness of love and happiness with my family. If I died today, I die knowing I have been fully blessed with the best possible family. And totally loved.
Okay, enough sap-fest...My words for the day: cherish your family as fully as you can, and where family is lacking, build deep relationships with those you love and trust. Life truly is a rocky challenge, but with support from loved ones, we can all get through it beautifully.
Saturday, November 21, 2009
Do Big Things
Lessons truly are everywhere, if you're open to noticing them. Earlier today, I watched this week's episode of Survivor in which one of the contestants, Dave, said, "You've gotta be willing to make some big moves if you want to win at this game." In the context and nature of Survivor, this statement is a given, but in life...
In order to have big successes and to have significantly wonderful things happen in your life, as well as positively impacting the society at large, one must take big chances. Put yourself out there. Try things you've never tried. Make friends with everyone you meet. Dream big and try to make it your reality. Travel more. Create a charitable organization. Run for office. Run a marathon. Start your dream business. Know that your possibilities are truly only limited by your imagination.
Life really is WAY too short, so make every single second matter. Take every opportunity to live fully by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Take big risks towards good and positive things. You only live once (as far as we can tell), so make big plans and go after them. You never know until you try, and remember, taking big risks is the only way to attain their even bigger rewards.
In order to have big successes and to have significantly wonderful things happen in your life, as well as positively impacting the society at large, one must take big chances. Put yourself out there. Try things you've never tried. Make friends with everyone you meet. Dream big and try to make it your reality. Travel more. Create a charitable organization. Run for office. Run a marathon. Start your dream business. Know that your possibilities are truly only limited by your imagination.
Life really is WAY too short, so make every single second matter. Take every opportunity to live fully by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Take big risks towards good and positive things. You only live once (as far as we can tell), so make big plans and go after them. You never know until you try, and remember, taking big risks is the only way to attain their even bigger rewards.
Friday, November 20, 2009
Vent the Steam
Ah, there's much humility to be had in trying to grasp the wisdom of God. While I still subscribe to the notion of staying focused on the positive and trying to block out the negative, I am realizing, through God's wonderful life-lessons, that things aren't always so black and white.
Today is the case in point: it was an intensely frustrating day. Work was incredibly busy and short-handed. And everything seemed to just go against how I needed or wanted them to go. Everything was testing my patience, from the dangerous commuter I encountered while on my way to work to the tedious projects my supervisor was making me address.
During all of the frustrating things that happened, I was able to maintain a decent attitude while I prayed dearly for ample patience from God. But I could feel it building and building; I could feel the possibility growing of lashing out at someone who didn't deserve it. I truly felt like a pressure cooker.
And then I got to my journal and was able to vent all of my frustrations. In text, anyway. And it helped quite a bit, although I didn't actually really feel joyful again until I talked with my bff. And although he and I didn't talk about all the junk that was annoying me, as those words were already said (to my journal), he lifted my spirits with jokes and fun.
So it is actually a good idea, from time to time when things go atrociously out of your favor, to vent your frustration. Journaling is wonderful and highly recommended, but nothing ever beats a good friend to help adjust your attitude.
Today is the case in point: it was an intensely frustrating day. Work was incredibly busy and short-handed. And everything seemed to just go against how I needed or wanted them to go. Everything was testing my patience, from the dangerous commuter I encountered while on my way to work to the tedious projects my supervisor was making me address.
During all of the frustrating things that happened, I was able to maintain a decent attitude while I prayed dearly for ample patience from God. But I could feel it building and building; I could feel the possibility growing of lashing out at someone who didn't deserve it. I truly felt like a pressure cooker.
And then I got to my journal and was able to vent all of my frustrations. In text, anyway. And it helped quite a bit, although I didn't actually really feel joyful again until I talked with my bff. And although he and I didn't talk about all the junk that was annoying me, as those words were already said (to my journal), he lifted my spirits with jokes and fun.
So it is actually a good idea, from time to time when things go atrociously out of your favor, to vent your frustration. Journaling is wonderful and highly recommended, but nothing ever beats a good friend to help adjust your attitude.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
The Defense of Innocence
It's funny how I just mentioned it yesterday, but my roommate was involved in the defense of innocence today. While on the bus, she witnessed someone being verbally attacked, and then physically so, by a large man with two cohorts. My roommate was the only one, initially, to come to the aid of this innocent man. She saw the innocent man was not provoking the big, angry man in any way. The angry man is the type of person who goes through life with a huge chip on his shoulder. He's the type that will pick on anyone weaker than him until that person gives him a reason to physically lash out.
While my roommate was unable to prevent the initial blow to the innocent man's face, she did take down the attacker via his weak leg. She has skills. The attacker and his two friends left.
So what's the point of today's story: 1.) my roommate is a bona fide hero, and 2.) even when the odds are not in your favor, it is one's moral obligation to stand up for innocence. My roommate was aided, after the initial exchanges, by another woman from the bus who also stood against evil. Good on them both.
While my roommate is furious that none of the men on the bus even attempted to help, I am going to spend my focus on what good came of it: an innocent person was spared further injury and my roommate set a wonderful example of what it means to live with a moral code.
While my roommate was unable to prevent the initial blow to the innocent man's face, she did take down the attacker via his weak leg. She has skills. The attacker and his two friends left.
So what's the point of today's story: 1.) my roommate is a bona fide hero, and 2.) even when the odds are not in your favor, it is one's moral obligation to stand up for innocence. My roommate was aided, after the initial exchanges, by another woman from the bus who also stood against evil. Good on them both.
While my roommate is furious that none of the men on the bus even attempted to help, I am going to spend my focus on what good came of it: an innocent person was spared further injury and my roommate set a wonderful example of what it means to live with a moral code.
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Death and Taxes: The Quick Guide to Life
There is that old saying about how there are only two things you ever HAVE to do in this life: pay taxes and die. So true, so true...I really want my life to actually have some meaning to someone else. I want to know that I made the people around me better, as well as the world in general. So I thought, if I were no longer here, what message would I want to be my legacy? What would I want to make sure everyone understood. So I came up with this:
The Quick Guide to Life
1. Ease up on stressing over things. In the end, remember none of the little things matter.
2. Share as much joy as you possibly can each day, because it's all over sooner than you think. Laugh as freely as you can.
3. Just keep on keeping on. Take regular steps towards good and positive things for yourself, as well as others. Slow and steady wins the race, but be sure to take advantage of positive momentum.
4. Love each other as fully as possible, including strangers. Show love and compassion to all, and embrace the ones you love tightly.
5. Develop as fully as you can the skills, talents, and gifts God has blessed you with.
6. Always choose good and right things.
7. Explore all of God's creation with appreciation, awe, and proper respect.
8. Defend the innocent, even with your life.
9. Talk to God often. God will help you, even if you don't believe.
10. Play like a kid.
The Quick Guide to Life
1. Ease up on stressing over things. In the end, remember none of the little things matter.
2. Share as much joy as you possibly can each day, because it's all over sooner than you think. Laugh as freely as you can.
3. Just keep on keeping on. Take regular steps towards good and positive things for yourself, as well as others. Slow and steady wins the race, but be sure to take advantage of positive momentum.
4. Love each other as fully as possible, including strangers. Show love and compassion to all, and embrace the ones you love tightly.
5. Develop as fully as you can the skills, talents, and gifts God has blessed you with.
6. Always choose good and right things.
7. Explore all of God's creation with appreciation, awe, and proper respect.
8. Defend the innocent, even with your life.
9. Talk to God often. God will help you, even if you don't believe.
10. Play like a kid.
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Perfect Day, Every Day
While my co-worker and I were looking out the window today, she said sarcastically, "It's beautiful out there." I'm not really sure why she was so displeased, but I think it had something to do with the cold temperature. Although, it could have been the clouds on the horizon. Or it could have been the emptying trees and litters of leaves. Regardless of why, she was displeased with what she saw out there.
But I turned to her and said, "Yes, actually, it is beautiful out there." In my tone, attitude and look, she saw that I meant it. It was then she understood that her attitude was a bit off, and then said, "Actually, I agree, it is." She's a pretty aware person, so she got what I meant.
Each day, no matter how cold, cloudy, windy, sunny, hot, foggy, etc., is perfect in and of itself. Each day is a unique gift from God. It's a wonderful thing that each day is special, different, and is full of surprises and possibilities.
ATTENTION, Y'ALL: Every single day you spend on this Earth is perfect, as it is truly a gift from God. Embrace that it is a perfect day, and it will be, as your life is entirely defined and influenced by your mental state. And be sure to embrace the joy, possibilities, and perfection that is each new day. Life is too short not to live.
But I turned to her and said, "Yes, actually, it is beautiful out there." In my tone, attitude and look, she saw that I meant it. It was then she understood that her attitude was a bit off, and then said, "Actually, I agree, it is." She's a pretty aware person, so she got what I meant.
Each day, no matter how cold, cloudy, windy, sunny, hot, foggy, etc., is perfect in and of itself. Each day is a unique gift from God. It's a wonderful thing that each day is special, different, and is full of surprises and possibilities.
ATTENTION, Y'ALL: Every single day you spend on this Earth is perfect, as it is truly a gift from God. Embrace that it is a perfect day, and it will be, as your life is entirely defined and influenced by your mental state. And be sure to embrace the joy, possibilities, and perfection that is each new day. Life is too short not to live.
Monday, November 16, 2009
The Promise of an Enlightened Society
I went for jury duty today, and unfortunately, I wasn't called to sit on a jury. I will have to wait patiently to be called again for the chance to get on my first jury.
While I was in the cafeteria getting a canister machine mocha (which had a hint of cinnamon and was actually pretty good), I went to the register to encounter a blind man as the cashier. Odd, I thought, but I went with it.
"Is someone there?" he asked. I guess I was too still.
"Yes, hi," I said.
"What do you have?" he asked.
"A mocha from the machine," I replied.
"What color cup?" he inquired. I was tickled by his question, but laughed on the inside.
"Red," I said.
"$2.75," he announced.
I handed him a five.
"What is this?" he asked.
"A five."
I took my change and bid him good day.
But how delightful that we can live in a society in which MOST people are good, decent, and honest. It is lovely. I stood there and watched a long while. Dozens of transactions later, it was the same story: every single person honestly announced the items they were purchasing as well as the denominations of the bills. I love seeing this kind of thing, where all people understand what is good and right and just do it as naturally as breathing. We are all good, each one of us. And I know society will get to a good, fair, and kind place. Just watch for the signs, they are everywhere.
While I was in the cafeteria getting a canister machine mocha (which had a hint of cinnamon and was actually pretty good), I went to the register to encounter a blind man as the cashier. Odd, I thought, but I went with it.
"Is someone there?" he asked. I guess I was too still.
"Yes, hi," I said.
"What do you have?" he asked.
"A mocha from the machine," I replied.
"What color cup?" he inquired. I was tickled by his question, but laughed on the inside.
"Red," I said.
"$2.75," he announced.
I handed him a five.
"What is this?" he asked.
"A five."
I took my change and bid him good day.
But how delightful that we can live in a society in which MOST people are good, decent, and honest. It is lovely. I stood there and watched a long while. Dozens of transactions later, it was the same story: every single person honestly announced the items they were purchasing as well as the denominations of the bills. I love seeing this kind of thing, where all people understand what is good and right and just do it as naturally as breathing. We are all good, each one of us. And I know society will get to a good, fair, and kind place. Just watch for the signs, they are everywhere.
Sunday, November 15, 2009
The Lessons from A Christmas Carol
I am normally a firm believer in only starting on anything Christmas after Thanksgiving, but when my roommate suggested we see the new Disney remake of A Christmas Carol, I let my excitement for seeing the picture overcome my usual objection.
And I'm glad I did. We saw it in 3D and it was visually awesome. The advances they've made in computer generated images is amazing, especially in regards to textures and lighting. Pretty soon, they won't need live actors for anything, but I digress...
The story, for those who aren't familiar with this classic, is that this angry, wealthy, bitter, and greedy old man is visited by three ghosts that reveal the Christmas' of the past, present, and future of Scrooge's life. With a man of that caliber, you can imagine the bad things that were revealed to him. He heeded the warning, and turned good and found salvation. This movie got me to thinking--as everything does, as you know--that I am certainly not going to wait to face the abyss (be it damnation or other) before I start living fully in all ways. To do good and charitable things for others is a big part of one's salvation, but so is using all of what God has blessed you with wisely. Live fully, in every way, as you will inevitably face the abyss. Act now to conquer it then.
And I'm glad I did. We saw it in 3D and it was visually awesome. The advances they've made in computer generated images is amazing, especially in regards to textures and lighting. Pretty soon, they won't need live actors for anything, but I digress...
The story, for those who aren't familiar with this classic, is that this angry, wealthy, bitter, and greedy old man is visited by three ghosts that reveal the Christmas' of the past, present, and future of Scrooge's life. With a man of that caliber, you can imagine the bad things that were revealed to him. He heeded the warning, and turned good and found salvation. This movie got me to thinking--as everything does, as you know--that I am certainly not going to wait to face the abyss (be it damnation or other) before I start living fully in all ways. To do good and charitable things for others is a big part of one's salvation, but so is using all of what God has blessed you with wisely. Live fully, in every way, as you will inevitably face the abyss. Act now to conquer it then.
Saturday, November 14, 2009
Focus = Observation + Wisdom
I enjoy thinking. I especially enjoy when I find even clearer ways to understand things. I was reflecting on focus the other day. I talk about it all the time and know how critically important it is to finding anything, including God, success, and happiness. But in thinking about focus, I realized that perfect focus is a marriage of observation and wisdom.
Any creature on Earth with eyes can observe. Observation is just the input of information. Colors, textures, temperatures, movement, etc...observation is the full record of input from all the senses at any one moment in time.
In order to achieve focus, however, one must bring clarity to what is being observed. One can only do this by fully exploring all meanings, implications, and possibilities, which are based in one's education--formal or not--and experience. Focus is fully observing all that is possible to observe, and then knowing what best to do with your observations, with aid of God's guidance via your conscience.
And that is what focus is all about, Charlie Brown. (Christmas is a-comin'!)
Any creature on Earth with eyes can observe. Observation is just the input of information. Colors, textures, temperatures, movement, etc...observation is the full record of input from all the senses at any one moment in time.
In order to achieve focus, however, one must bring clarity to what is being observed. One can only do this by fully exploring all meanings, implications, and possibilities, which are based in one's education--formal or not--and experience. Focus is fully observing all that is possible to observe, and then knowing what best to do with your observations, with aid of God's guidance via your conscience.
And that is what focus is all about, Charlie Brown. (Christmas is a-comin'!)
Friday, November 13, 2009
The Responsibility of Hope
A friend of mine has a problem nephew. Not to get into the details, but his nephew has had the kind of problems that have legal penalties and that caused him to be ostracized from the rest of his family. His nephew has nowhere to turn, as their entire family, including my friend, are still incredibly mad at him. And rightfully so.
But his nephew will truly have nowhere to go except back to the harmful people and ways that got him into the mess he is presently in. My friend, quite unfortunately, has to put aside all of his righteous anger and other feelings and reach out to his nephew. He must be a beacon of hope and provide the possibility of salvation for his nephew. There is no one else that can do it. He must provide the template for his nephew on what a real, good, and honest man looks like.
It's my friend's responsibility to do this for his nephew because he is family, and you must always take care of your family, no matter how difficult they make it. While this is true, this responsibility actually goes beyond kinship. The responsibility of hope lies with each and every one of us to ensure that none of us is ever left hopeless and lost. When you see someone in your life who appears to be living without hope, it is your moral obligation to reach out to them and let them know someone cares about them. You must put out a hand. They may embrace it or they may slap it away, but at least you have done your due diligence by God. We are all members of God's humanity, and as such, we must strive to love one another and share in hope. All for One.
But his nephew will truly have nowhere to go except back to the harmful people and ways that got him into the mess he is presently in. My friend, quite unfortunately, has to put aside all of his righteous anger and other feelings and reach out to his nephew. He must be a beacon of hope and provide the possibility of salvation for his nephew. There is no one else that can do it. He must provide the template for his nephew on what a real, good, and honest man looks like.
It's my friend's responsibility to do this for his nephew because he is family, and you must always take care of your family, no matter how difficult they make it. While this is true, this responsibility actually goes beyond kinship. The responsibility of hope lies with each and every one of us to ensure that none of us is ever left hopeless and lost. When you see someone in your life who appears to be living without hope, it is your moral obligation to reach out to them and let them know someone cares about them. You must put out a hand. They may embrace it or they may slap it away, but at least you have done your due diligence by God. We are all members of God's humanity, and as such, we must strive to love one another and share in hope. All for One.
Thursday, November 12, 2009
So Much Potential
I was in my back yard yesterday, soaking in the relatively weak warmth from the late afternoon Autumn sun and looking around at my yard. It has issues. It has sections of hardpan dirt, remnants of what appeared to be a rock garden, several slopes, sheets of black weed-suppressing material under all of the flower beds (making new planting impossible until removed), and other issues such as a patchy lawn, an abundance of weeds, odd slabs of cement (that I still can't figure out what they were ever used for), and dozens of varieties of weeds. And that's just for starters. But I love it. I love it dearly, as ragged as it is. It has personality, character, and a nearly infinite amount of potential. And then the insight...
My beloved yard was a metaphor for us. I love my yard and appreciate it as it is, flawed and imperfect, but it is in the potential that the imagination runs wild. I can design my yard any way I want. It has so much potential, just like us. We are all none of us perfect. We are all ragged and issue-ridden the lot of us, regardless of how polished we may appear. But we all have potential, as long as we are still on this side of the grave, each and every one of us have unlimited potential, and God adores this in us. And blessed be this potential, for without it, there could be no hope for any of us. It is in this potential, this hope, that God waits patiently for us to get our individual, as well as collective, acts together. God will never give up on us as long as the potential is there that we can be saved, in any and every way. Thrive to impress God by trying to test the limits of your potential. I bet you will surprise yourself with all you can do. Go do good.
My beloved yard was a metaphor for us. I love my yard and appreciate it as it is, flawed and imperfect, but it is in the potential that the imagination runs wild. I can design my yard any way I want. It has so much potential, just like us. We are all none of us perfect. We are all ragged and issue-ridden the lot of us, regardless of how polished we may appear. But we all have potential, as long as we are still on this side of the grave, each and every one of us have unlimited potential, and God adores this in us. And blessed be this potential, for without it, there could be no hope for any of us. It is in this potential, this hope, that God waits patiently for us to get our individual, as well as collective, acts together. God will never give up on us as long as the potential is there that we can be saved, in any and every way. Thrive to impress God by trying to test the limits of your potential. I bet you will surprise yourself with all you can do. Go do good.
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Thank You, Veterans!
Today is Veterans Day, an important American holiday. Today is the day which we turn our focus and deepest appreciation on the men and women who have ever served in the protection of our country. Without them, this country could not and truly would not exist. Thank God for giving some the courage to offer their lives for the defense of the good, safety, and well-being of the rest. They are all heroes, no matter their rank or station.
So today's lecture: go appreciate some vets! Do you know any military, active or not? Bake some brownies and take them some. Throw a vet apprecation party. Go to a parade. Take time to focus and express your apprecation for their sacrifice for you. They have my deepest respect and appreciation. Happy Veterans Day!
So today's lecture: go appreciate some vets! Do you know any military, active or not? Bake some brownies and take them some. Throw a vet apprecation party. Go to a parade. Take time to focus and express your apprecation for their sacrifice for you. They have my deepest respect and appreciation. Happy Veterans Day!
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
The More Things Change...
I have spent a good portion of my adult life trying to noodle out the old saying, "The more things change, the more they stay the same." I could not wrap my mind around it because it just seemed like an obvious oxymoron. But today, I received the insight necessary to understand its meaning:
Change is the natural order of the universe.
God created our universe via the Big Bang with momentum, obviously. That momentum is what makes collisions so that variations in all things could occur. Along with the four forces, which include gravity, those variations maintain momentum. All things are either perpetually evolving and changing or becoming extinct. The universe doesn't seem too fond of equilibrium or maintaining a status quo.
God created the universe with the full intention that it constant changes and evolves. Either things will grow into bigger and better things, or they will be rendered useless and die off. (Which is a good and useful inspirational message in itself.)
I used to get so uptight about things changing and the loss of physical items. But nowadays I don't fret none. I don't stress so much over the things now I understand are actually insignificant in the grand scheme. (You really don't take it with you.) And I don't worry about changing, about getting old, about events that will change my life, as these are the natural order of things. I no longer frustratingly tolerate change, I now accept it fully and even embrace it with an eagerness of possibility. God has blessed us with a wonderful adventure. Embrace it!
Change is the natural order of the universe.
God created our universe via the Big Bang with momentum, obviously. That momentum is what makes collisions so that variations in all things could occur. Along with the four forces, which include gravity, those variations maintain momentum. All things are either perpetually evolving and changing or becoming extinct. The universe doesn't seem too fond of equilibrium or maintaining a status quo.
God created the universe with the full intention that it constant changes and evolves. Either things will grow into bigger and better things, or they will be rendered useless and die off. (Which is a good and useful inspirational message in itself.)
I used to get so uptight about things changing and the loss of physical items. But nowadays I don't fret none. I don't stress so much over the things now I understand are actually insignificant in the grand scheme. (You really don't take it with you.) And I don't worry about changing, about getting old, about events that will change my life, as these are the natural order of things. I no longer frustratingly tolerate change, I now accept it fully and even embrace it with an eagerness of possibility. God has blessed us with a wonderful adventure. Embrace it!
Monday, November 9, 2009
Next Step for Society: Eliminate the Radicals
This last Thursday, Nidal Malik Hasan shouted "Allahu akbar!" (Allah is great) as he shot 12 innocent people to death and wounded 31 others. Was he a Muslim terrorist in Iraq or Afganistan? Nope.
He was a Major and psychiatrist in the U.S. Army and a Muslim terrorist, who went on his killing spree at Fort Hood in Texas. I know many of you are well aware of this story, but it is worth repeating that he was in the Army and that it was here, in the United States. And, yes, this was a terrorist attack, obviously, as all Islamic extremists shout the same thing Hasan did when they go on their suicide and terrorist missions. Even if he wasn't associated with Al-Qaeda or other terrorist organization, he danced the same dance and sang the same song. And when it walks like a duck...
It is quite unfortunate that the media seem not to be addressing this murderous rampage as terrorism, as they still covet the trophy of political correctness, as ridiculous and out-dated as that is. Instead of an Islamic terrorist, it was a "gunman." You can't anger the Muslims, for heaven's sake! Even when their own are killing innocent people around the globe and generally making life as unpleasant as possible for those who don't agree them.
There is nothing that is slowing the progress of the civilization of our global society more than radicals. Because of communication and technology, our planet will inevitably become unified in very significant ways, most likely within the next several decades. But this can only occur via total international cooperation, which will protect mutual best interests as well as protect the environment. In a world of fewer and fewer secrets and where people are learning that there actually is enough to go around for every person on this planet, we will find that peaceful coexistence is the only way for any person or group to get what they desire in any measure. Unfortunately, our global society still has a ways to go before mutual cooperation is universal, as we still have quite a few radicals fighting against this progress.
Although Muslims aren't the only radicals that our global society needs to eliminate, they are presently the most dominant of the lot. But there are extremists in just about all things people believe in, from Christianity (and all other faiths) to abortion (both sides) to environmental protection to political views. And they all need to be eliminated. Not killed, necessarily, but controlled and monitored in order to mitigate possible damage they may seek to inflict. Do I believe in killing radicals? Yes, but only if all other methods of control prove ineffective.
You may ask yourself: doesn't controlling the radicals get into uncomfortable areas, like taking away personal freedoms? No, not at all. As long as an individual (or group) is proven to partake in radical activities that, either intentionally or accidentally, harm the rights and/or well being of innocent people, then they have absolutely no place in polite society and waive any claim to the rights that polite society has created for itself. You can't be on both sides of the same fence simultaneously.
Our planet will inevitably be one society, one global community, but we still have quite a bit to learn about cooperative living and mutual respect before that happens. And in order for our planet to transition into this new era, the next and most significant step we need to take is to remove the radicals. Godspeed to the good guys.
He was a Major and psychiatrist in the U.S. Army and a Muslim terrorist, who went on his killing spree at Fort Hood in Texas. I know many of you are well aware of this story, but it is worth repeating that he was in the Army and that it was here, in the United States. And, yes, this was a terrorist attack, obviously, as all Islamic extremists shout the same thing Hasan did when they go on their suicide and terrorist missions. Even if he wasn't associated with Al-Qaeda or other terrorist organization, he danced the same dance and sang the same song. And when it walks like a duck...
It is quite unfortunate that the media seem not to be addressing this murderous rampage as terrorism, as they still covet the trophy of political correctness, as ridiculous and out-dated as that is. Instead of an Islamic terrorist, it was a "gunman." You can't anger the Muslims, for heaven's sake! Even when their own are killing innocent people around the globe and generally making life as unpleasant as possible for those who don't agree them.
There is nothing that is slowing the progress of the civilization of our global society more than radicals. Because of communication and technology, our planet will inevitably become unified in very significant ways, most likely within the next several decades. But this can only occur via total international cooperation, which will protect mutual best interests as well as protect the environment. In a world of fewer and fewer secrets and where people are learning that there actually is enough to go around for every person on this planet, we will find that peaceful coexistence is the only way for any person or group to get what they desire in any measure. Unfortunately, our global society still has a ways to go before mutual cooperation is universal, as we still have quite a few radicals fighting against this progress.
Although Muslims aren't the only radicals that our global society needs to eliminate, they are presently the most dominant of the lot. But there are extremists in just about all things people believe in, from Christianity (and all other faiths) to abortion (both sides) to environmental protection to political views. And they all need to be eliminated. Not killed, necessarily, but controlled and monitored in order to mitigate possible damage they may seek to inflict. Do I believe in killing radicals? Yes, but only if all other methods of control prove ineffective.
You may ask yourself: doesn't controlling the radicals get into uncomfortable areas, like taking away personal freedoms? No, not at all. As long as an individual (or group) is proven to partake in radical activities that, either intentionally or accidentally, harm the rights and/or well being of innocent people, then they have absolutely no place in polite society and waive any claim to the rights that polite society has created for itself. You can't be on both sides of the same fence simultaneously.
Our planet will inevitably be one society, one global community, but we still have quite a bit to learn about cooperative living and mutual respect before that happens. And in order for our planet to transition into this new era, the next and most significant step we need to take is to remove the radicals. Godspeed to the good guys.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Do You Do More Than Wait for Death?
It is unfortunate, and rather frustrating, that I have to continue asking myself the above question. The follow-up question is also important: what are you doing today that will make tomorrow different, especially in areas in which you are displeased? I must also remind myself that I can't complain about certain things if I never get off my booty to do anything to affect their changes.
So today's message is a short, but important, reminder for you to ask yourself if you are using each day to build on the accomplishments of the previous in order to facilitate the desired changes in your life, or are you just waiting to die? It's good to ask this of yourself so bluntly, as it brings a starkness and immediacy to your inaction. I know it does for me, as it reminds me that I only have a limited amount of time to accomplish anything--and everything. That's enough to get me back to living. Live well, my friends.
So today's message is a short, but important, reminder for you to ask yourself if you are using each day to build on the accomplishments of the previous in order to facilitate the desired changes in your life, or are you just waiting to die? It's good to ask this of yourself so bluntly, as it brings a starkness and immediacy to your inaction. I know it does for me, as it reminds me that I only have a limited amount of time to accomplish anything--and everything. That's enough to get me back to living. Live well, my friends.
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Practice the Three Expressions of Joy
One of my sisters wisely pointed out to me the other day that the three expressions of joy are singing, dancing, and laughing, and that it is a shame people don't do more of the first two. People really tend to shy away from singing and dancing for fear of what others may think. And I agree, it is a shame.
I have a customer at work who our unit has aptly nicknamed "Dancing Man," because before and after--and sometimes during--our interactions with him, he dances. He's not crazy, he has an mp3 player, but he just lets loose and goes with the music. Whenever I see him come into the office, I get a smile on my face. Dancing Man brings joy. And although he get looks or comments from people from time to time, he still embraces his self-expression, which is pretty cool and very admirable.
I have a special appreciation for dance, as it is the most demanding of the three expressions of joy. I began watching So You Think You Can Dance last season, and if you don't already watch it, you must. It is art. If I could have figured out how to show this on my blog, I would have, but this was one of my favorite routines from last season: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJGmSUN0wMo. It's awesome.
So live life as fully as you can, and express your joy! Laugh, sing and dance as much as you can, as you only have so much time left to do so. Embracing joy means embracing God. Truly.
I have a customer at work who our unit has aptly nicknamed "Dancing Man," because before and after--and sometimes during--our interactions with him, he dances. He's not crazy, he has an mp3 player, but he just lets loose and goes with the music. Whenever I see him come into the office, I get a smile on my face. Dancing Man brings joy. And although he get looks or comments from people from time to time, he still embraces his self-expression, which is pretty cool and very admirable.
I have a special appreciation for dance, as it is the most demanding of the three expressions of joy. I began watching So You Think You Can Dance last season, and if you don't already watch it, you must. It is art. If I could have figured out how to show this on my blog, I would have, but this was one of my favorite routines from last season: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJGmSUN0wMo. It's awesome.
So live life as fully as you can, and express your joy! Laugh, sing and dance as much as you can, as you only have so much time left to do so. Embracing joy means embracing God. Truly.
Friday, November 6, 2009
Focus on the Feedback from Others
I was in Starbucks this morning, tiredly trying to get through my drink order; I was on auto-pilot. I thought I was being pleasant during my interaction with the barista, but as he handed me my change he said, "I hope your day gets better."
Wow. I woke up, but a little too late. I only then realized that I was being a bit of a downer, although it was totally unintentional. I thought I was nice enough to the barista, although I truthfully wasn't paying enough attention to remember. It was only after getting a reality check from someone outside my own head did I realize my attitude was a bit off. That was my wake up call for the day, and I really sought after that to be courteous, friendly and attentive to anyone with whom I interacted. That response from the barista was the feedback I needed to get myself in check.
So today's lesson is that it's a good idea to actually pay attention to how other people are responding and interacting with you. In addition to listening attentively, look for more subtle signs of emotional discord in their tone of voice, body language, and facial expressions. These all give clues as to how the other person is receiving and processing you in his or her head. So pay attention to their reactions and adjust yourself as needed to maximize good relations and mutual well being.
Ah, I learn more and more of the obvious every day thanks to focus. Be well.
Wow. I woke up, but a little too late. I only then realized that I was being a bit of a downer, although it was totally unintentional. I thought I was nice enough to the barista, although I truthfully wasn't paying enough attention to remember. It was only after getting a reality check from someone outside my own head did I realize my attitude was a bit off. That was my wake up call for the day, and I really sought after that to be courteous, friendly and attentive to anyone with whom I interacted. That response from the barista was the feedback I needed to get myself in check.
So today's lesson is that it's a good idea to actually pay attention to how other people are responding and interacting with you. In addition to listening attentively, look for more subtle signs of emotional discord in their tone of voice, body language, and facial expressions. These all give clues as to how the other person is receiving and processing you in his or her head. So pay attention to their reactions and adjust yourself as needed to maximize good relations and mutual well being.
Ah, I learn more and more of the obvious every day thanks to focus. Be well.
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Charity Begins at Home
Someone in my family is struggling a bit. I am far from wealthy, but I was able to scrape together a little assistance for this person. And I am more than pleased to do so. Truly.
This, along with yesterday's checking in on my brother, got me thinking about the importance of charity. Doing acts of charity is crucial for the good of one's soul, and I love doing them. So to do acts of charity for family members is doubly beneficial for me, because in addition to finding joy in them, I can also see the good I do being appreciated and used wisely. And as long as there are real and important needs within my own family, I am morally obligated to start my charity with them.
Be good, kind, and charitable to all in this world, but make sure your family's basic needs are sated first. Give them your attention and focus, and then any assistance you might offer, whether it is financial help or emotional support or helping with overwhelming chores. Like my beloved Grandma used to say, "charity begins at home." I am only now appreciating how wonderfully important that saying is.
This, along with yesterday's checking in on my brother, got me thinking about the importance of charity. Doing acts of charity is crucial for the good of one's soul, and I love doing them. So to do acts of charity for family members is doubly beneficial for me, because in addition to finding joy in them, I can also see the good I do being appreciated and used wisely. And as long as there are real and important needs within my own family, I am morally obligated to start my charity with them.
Be good, kind, and charitable to all in this world, but make sure your family's basic needs are sated first. Give them your attention and focus, and then any assistance you might offer, whether it is financial help or emotional support or helping with overwhelming chores. Like my beloved Grandma used to say, "charity begins at home." I am only now appreciating how wonderfully important that saying is.
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
My Brother's Keeper
I am my brother's keeper. Or rather, we are, as the rest of my family luckily shares this responsibility.
My brother is a good, honest and decent guy. But he has problems with habits and emotional issues. And he has a long history of disconnecting completely from the rest of the family for good periods of time. The one blessing is that he has never once missed being with us all at Christmas. And that's wonderful, although there was one year when Christmas was the only time we saw him. But the past is history...
Because my brother's phone has been disconnected for two weeks now, I decided to call his work, at which time I found out through his co-worker that he had been off of work for three weeks because of a broken clavicle. So after work, I drove to his apartment and found him in decent shape, considering the broken bone and huge bruise from his bicycle accident.
He told me the tale of his injury, and that he took the bus to the hospital. He told me that it occurred to him while sitting in the examining room that had he picked up the phone, he could have had four rides to the hospital gratis. Him telling me this told me two things: first, that we are getting into his heart finally. At least it occurred to him at some point that his family would be there for him, which is an improvement from the past where we wouldn't cross his mind at all. Second, that we still have a ways to go with my brother in getting him deeply connected with the rest of the family. I want him to always keep in mind that his family will help him with anything and should be the first place to turn for help.
The problem is that he obviously doesn't have our love and concern for him in mind. He feels like he is facing this world alone, which is heart-breakingly sad, because it is far from true. But because he does feel that way, we must continue reaching out to him and share with him our love and concern as as often as possible. My brother feels alone in this world, so it is our responsibility as his family to be there for him. Is it hard to continue to reach out to someone who does nothing but pull away? Sure. But it is both our responsibility and our privilege. He's a great guy, beneath it all.
My brother is a good, honest and decent guy. But he has problems with habits and emotional issues. And he has a long history of disconnecting completely from the rest of the family for good periods of time. The one blessing is that he has never once missed being with us all at Christmas. And that's wonderful, although there was one year when Christmas was the only time we saw him. But the past is history...
Because my brother's phone has been disconnected for two weeks now, I decided to call his work, at which time I found out through his co-worker that he had been off of work for three weeks because of a broken clavicle. So after work, I drove to his apartment and found him in decent shape, considering the broken bone and huge bruise from his bicycle accident.
He told me the tale of his injury, and that he took the bus to the hospital. He told me that it occurred to him while sitting in the examining room that had he picked up the phone, he could have had four rides to the hospital gratis. Him telling me this told me two things: first, that we are getting into his heart finally. At least it occurred to him at some point that his family would be there for him, which is an improvement from the past where we wouldn't cross his mind at all. Second, that we still have a ways to go with my brother in getting him deeply connected with the rest of the family. I want him to always keep in mind that his family will help him with anything and should be the first place to turn for help.
The problem is that he obviously doesn't have our love and concern for him in mind. He feels like he is facing this world alone, which is heart-breakingly sad, because it is far from true. But because he does feel that way, we must continue reaching out to him and share with him our love and concern as as often as possible. My brother feels alone in this world, so it is our responsibility as his family to be there for him. Is it hard to continue to reach out to someone who does nothing but pull away? Sure. But it is both our responsibility and our privilege. He's a great guy, beneath it all.
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Language is Culture
At work today, I overheard a conversation in the lobby. But because it was in a foreign language, all I heard were a few familiar consonants and vowel sounds sprinkled among the melody coming from their mouths. And then I heard the word "online."
I laughed to myself at first, but then it got me thinking about language. The only way people can communicate or even deal with one another at all is by having a common language. Language is the primary facilitator in uniting people, the essence of culture. And when people interact more and more, whether out of desire or necessity, a common language inevitably results. Telephones, televisions, and computers have connected most people on this planet. Our modern technology has recently created a global community. A common language is only a matter of time.
With technology and other inventions suddenly being released globally, many languages do not have the chance to go through the natural development of a new word for a new item. Instead, when an English speaker creates the internet so that one can go "online," the terms are in place already. The terms were introduced to the entire society at essentially the same time, so at what point could a new word in the native tongue have developed? The deed is done. English, thanks to technology, has infiltrated other languages.
And as time goes on, there are going to be more and more new words for new technologies and so there are going to be more and more universal words. Eventually, out of necessity, everyone will need to speak the universal language. And that is a good thing, as it will, in fact, unite all people. And I know that will facilitate much good and be pleasing to God.
p.s. I still predict the universal language will be English, because of its momentum.
I laughed to myself at first, but then it got me thinking about language. The only way people can communicate or even deal with one another at all is by having a common language. Language is the primary facilitator in uniting people, the essence of culture. And when people interact more and more, whether out of desire or necessity, a common language inevitably results. Telephones, televisions, and computers have connected most people on this planet. Our modern technology has recently created a global community. A common language is only a matter of time.
With technology and other inventions suddenly being released globally, many languages do not have the chance to go through the natural development of a new word for a new item. Instead, when an English speaker creates the internet so that one can go "online," the terms are in place already. The terms were introduced to the entire society at essentially the same time, so at what point could a new word in the native tongue have developed? The deed is done. English, thanks to technology, has infiltrated other languages.
And as time goes on, there are going to be more and more new words for new technologies and so there are going to be more and more universal words. Eventually, out of necessity, everyone will need to speak the universal language. And that is a good thing, as it will, in fact, unite all people. And I know that will facilitate much good and be pleasing to God.
p.s. I still predict the universal language will be English, because of its momentum.
Monday, November 2, 2009
Stuck in First Gear?
I know I've been. It's not that I'm not working toward my goals, it's just that I'm doing so a little too sporadically. At the pace I'm at now, I won't attain my goals in decades. And that's a problem.
Today, I set my mind to be productive all day, and for the most part, I was. I got quite a bit accomplished on several different things I'm working on. To mix things up, I intentionally spent only 20-30 minutes on a task before switching, which also helped in keeping me equipped with fresh eyes for each project. My fresh approach for the day was successful in many ways.
Here are a few (hopefully useful) anecdotal tips for shifting into second gear:
1. Start with focus - focus on how you want things to be and all of the wonderful feelings associated with accomplishing your goal. Remind yourself often of this, exhausting the benefits.
2. And then more focus - focus on the next step in your goal, assessing what resources you will need and the easiest way to get it accomplished.
3. Turn to God - listen to God's guidance through your conscience during your journey. Stay focused on doing good and right things.
4. Expand your circle - if you can't seem to figure out a way to get to the next step of your goal, expand your circle of knowledge and connections. Do research in libraries, as well as online. Build your network and reach out to those who may know. Seek help, advice, and encouragement from others. Most will be happy to oblige.
5. Set time frames - make sure you give each step toward your goal its own deadline. Strive to finish the step before the deadline, but forgive yourself if it takes you a bit longer.
6. Set your schedule - commit yourself to spend some time each day working toward your goal, even if it's just five minutes. Feel free to allow flexibility in when during the day you take your five minutes.
7. Start small - begin with the easiest tasks. It will help build confidence and momentum.
8. Mix it up - switch from task to task as often as you want to minimize tedium and to provide fresh eyes.
9. Realize the truth - life is short, and the only way you will ever have what you envision in your goals is by doing the work necessary to make them reality. Do not waste time. There's only one way to live life, and that's to live it. Fully.
Today, I set my mind to be productive all day, and for the most part, I was. I got quite a bit accomplished on several different things I'm working on. To mix things up, I intentionally spent only 20-30 minutes on a task before switching, which also helped in keeping me equipped with fresh eyes for each project. My fresh approach for the day was successful in many ways.
Here are a few (hopefully useful) anecdotal tips for shifting into second gear:
1. Start with focus - focus on how you want things to be and all of the wonderful feelings associated with accomplishing your goal. Remind yourself often of this, exhausting the benefits.
2. And then more focus - focus on the next step in your goal, assessing what resources you will need and the easiest way to get it accomplished.
3. Turn to God - listen to God's guidance through your conscience during your journey. Stay focused on doing good and right things.
4. Expand your circle - if you can't seem to figure out a way to get to the next step of your goal, expand your circle of knowledge and connections. Do research in libraries, as well as online. Build your network and reach out to those who may know. Seek help, advice, and encouragement from others. Most will be happy to oblige.
5. Set time frames - make sure you give each step toward your goal its own deadline. Strive to finish the step before the deadline, but forgive yourself if it takes you a bit longer.
6. Set your schedule - commit yourself to spend some time each day working toward your goal, even if it's just five minutes. Feel free to allow flexibility in when during the day you take your five minutes.
7. Start small - begin with the easiest tasks. It will help build confidence and momentum.
8. Mix it up - switch from task to task as often as you want to minimize tedium and to provide fresh eyes.
9. Realize the truth - life is short, and the only way you will ever have what you envision in your goals is by doing the work necessary to make them reality. Do not waste time. There's only one way to live life, and that's to live it. Fully.
Sunday, November 1, 2009
C'est la vie!
I find myself saying, "we'll see what happens," more and more. It's my own personal take on the French saying about rolling with the punches. We all must accept life has its ups and downs, lest we drive ourselves crazy with frustration in trying to control it or make sense of the whys.
The older I get, the wiser I grow, as I find myself worrying less and less about the ridiculous details of life that I found as priorities in my youth. Part of this is maturing and prioritizing my goals, time, and other resources, but a larger part of it comes from my trust in God.
Granted, my faith wavers as it does for most people, but I do stay firm in my assurance that God will take good care of my soul after I die. When you leave everything after life to God, you obviously leave it in good hands. And that faith gives me wonderful comfort in this life that no matter what happens, everything will be okay. Because, what's the worst possible scenario: you die and be with God? That's a good and positive thought. So thanks to God, I can take life as it comes, come what may. And that comfort makes me want to sing out: c'est la vie!
The older I get, the wiser I grow, as I find myself worrying less and less about the ridiculous details of life that I found as priorities in my youth. Part of this is maturing and prioritizing my goals, time, and other resources, but a larger part of it comes from my trust in God.
Granted, my faith wavers as it does for most people, but I do stay firm in my assurance that God will take good care of my soul after I die. When you leave everything after life to God, you obviously leave it in good hands. And that faith gives me wonderful comfort in this life that no matter what happens, everything will be okay. Because, what's the worst possible scenario: you die and be with God? That's a good and positive thought. So thanks to God, I can take life as it comes, come what may. And that comfort makes me want to sing out: c'est la vie!
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